How To Rebuke Someone Biblically
“What do you want? Shall I come to you with a rod, or in love and a spirit of gentleness?” – 1 Corinthians 4:21
The older I get, the more and more I am appreciative of the people in my life who were willing to lovingly rebuke me. I thank the Lord for godly parents, for loving mentors and pastors, and sincere friends. With each of these groups of people, I found myself at a crossroads with them. I had done something ungodly or revealed an area of my life that wasn’t consistent with a servant of Christ. At these crossroads, all those who loved me, genuinely and sincerely loved me, stopped me and patiently pointed out the cancer I had allowed to grow. Not only did they identify the evil, but they were willing to stand by me as I began the short or long journey of extracting it from my life. These people are rare and need to be cherished by us who are so blessed to have them as an integral part of our existence.
Again, as I age, not only am I appreciative of the people who loved me enough to amend me, but I’ve also noticed that these people seem to be less and less appreciated by society. We have conjured up and currently live inside the notion that those who love don’t correct, because, in our minds, there is nothing about us that needs to be altered. “Love me as I am” is the cry of the culture. Well I, for one, would like to thank those who actually didn’t love me as I am. I would like to thank God for those who loved me despite the way that I was!
May I encourage you to not be afraid to love those you are close to, to accept their loving corrections when offered? May I encourage you to also earnestly appreciate those who love you enough to rebuke you biblically when you need it most? Remember, God loves us enough to correct us and point us in the right direction. Let’s welcome and treasure the significant people in our lives who do the same!